Sunday, May 13, 2007

Be Mindful of Labels

Labels. We all use them. We label others, ourselves, circumstances - everything. Labels are, of course, useful for prescription containers, food containers, road signs, etc. However labels can be detrimental when one is seeking a mate. Take the 6 foot tall woman who refuses to entertain the thought of dating a man who stands less than 6 feet tall. She has assigned the "he's too short" label. Take the woman who is in a highly professional career; let's say she's an attorney or engineer. She may label the local mechanic as "a really nice guy but he's a mechanic-not a professional." Is he took "young" for you? Is he too "old" for you? Is the fact that he is or is not "Black," "White," "Asian," or "Latino" a label you are letting stand in the way of a potential mate? Remember, the package he's in is not indicative of what's in him.

Carmin Wharton
Author, "Lessons Learned: While Looking for Love in All the Wrong Faces"

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